Meet Joel, our resident dating expert. He’s no Tony Robbins. He won’t ask you to pay a zillion bucks to attend his seminars or ask you to walk on hot coals — ouch. He’ll just tell it like it is, from the wise POV of someone who’s out there dating — just like you! Ask Joel “What’s the Deal” or anything else.
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What’s the Deal?!?
I’ve taken the plunge into online dating recently, but I’m only attracting jerks. How do I make myself stand out and get some good guys?
—Need a Profile
Dear Need a Profile,
Here’s the Deal:
From the perspective of a nice guy who has done a lot of online dating, I can tell you that the profiles of many women have recurring themes that don’t make them stand out. Try not to be generic, without giving too much away. It’s a balance.
For example, saying you “like going out and staying in” doesn’t give people much to go on. What do you like to do? Is staying in and watching movies your thing? Be honest. Be yourself, tell me what makes you you. How are you different from every other woman on here? Do you like the smell of pavement after it rains? Can you not fall asleep without wearing socks with little giraffes on them because your feet are always cold? Do you like to watch foreign movies in theaters by yourself because you can’t stand people asking you questions during them?
Also please don’t feel the need to post super sexy photos, bikini shots or worse to get attention. You will for sure attract the wrong type of guy if your pictures look like Pam Anderson’s Playboy spread. Be yourself, and you’ll attract the right type of guy. Eventually. Have patience, and good luck!